"זה לא אני, זה הוא" - בלוג BDSM / בדסמ / סאדו / סדו / שליטה / סקס / אהבה - מערכת יחסים אלטרנטיבית

"…desire to be tied up, handcuffed, gagged, or bound in uncomfortable positions; adults who desire to be whipped or tormented with lets of hot wax on bare skin. Some write longingly of receiving `an old-fashioned, bare-bottom, over-the-knee spanking.` Others desire to be embarrassed, verbally insulted, given commands, made to walk on all fours like a dog, or displayed naked in front of others who are fully clothed."

"Have they thoroughly lost their minds? Probably not…Masochists, Baumeister believes, are taking a breather from the growing burden of selfhood.

Relief From the Needy Self"

"Why would anyone want to escape awareness of the self? Because while a self is a handy, even a necessary, thing to have, it`s also very needy. It requires constant upkeep and maintenance. You have to work hard just to maintain a positive self-image. Or "to be in control.""

למאמר המלא.